These Three Words Literally Saved My Life... They Could Transform Your Life Too!

Written by Francois.

Please take a long, deep clearing breath and receive the healing intention that is contained in this message for you:

Good ☺

Two years ago, I found myself in the middle of an extremely challenging time. My spirit’s desire to learn and grow can be so strong at times that I tend to bring up “growth opportunities” that match that intensity. And this usually means, “Francois (and my poor wife Christi) buckle up!”

I am very clear that I didn’t come here in this life to waste my time on mere physical enjoyment, but rather to wake up to my True Nature, and to use my abilities, presence and awareness to help others who are also interested in knowing themselves.

Here’s what happened this time: I lost 15 lb in one week, and was overwhelmed by an inner panic and anxiety. It felt like my body was breaking down before my eyes. Weird symptoms were manifesting; it felt like my chest was collapsing, and I became extremely sensitive to sensory input, especially sound – a helicopter flying by a mile away set my ears on fire. Driving on the “freeway” didn’t feel free at all, but rather like driving through hell.

Finally I was diagnosed with Lyme disease. I couldn’t sleep at night anymore, and was in a constant cold sweat. Christi would wake up also to hold my head and massage my neck, in an effort to help my system calm down. Having made a career as a healer and coach, my natural response to crisis is to consult with God, my Guides and my Higher Self, in addition to a handful of outside sources that I trust to give me honest and straightforward information. But this time, all my sources gave me the same terrifying answer: “You must make the choice: Life or Death.”

Tahoe Sunrise Its Your Choice SmallI took this photo from our deck in Tahoe a few days ago, before leaving after two weeks of work and rest.

I thought that I had already made that choice a long time ago, so this threw me into a quagmire of fear and doubt. It made me doubt the very ability of my spirit to choose my highest good at all. Of course I wanted to live, and I thought I had chosen life beyond question, so what could this mean?

As these confused thoughts swirled through my aching head, fear had me in its grip, convinced that something “bad” was happening to me. I personally knew people whose Lyme disease was so bad they had to spend days in the hospital every week to get IV treatments, and that was only the beginning of their problems. What if I was diagnosed too late to be fully cured, and would be permanently damaged by this brutal disease? The thought filled me with terror and dread.

At this time, I had scheduled my second pilgrimage to visit medium Joao (John of God) in Brazil, and the trip dates were coming up. I didn’t know whether I could handle the long journey there in my wretched state. Twenty-seven hours in taxis, buses, planes, etc… it all seemed way too overwhelming. The day before we were supposed to leave was my worst day, and Christi took me to the ER where I spent 12 hours. The doctors there did a comprehensive panel of tests including cat scans and X-rays, but they found nothing. Proceeding with our pilgrimage as planned almost seemed crazy in light of my condition, but one of our spiritual mentors told Christi: “Just get him on the plane.”

Going to Brazil was definitely not logical at a time when I might end up needing medical attention, but doctors in the U.S. couldn’t figure how to help, and deep down I knew that if I wanted to heal, I needed to dig deeper into myself than ever before. The next day when it was time for us to leave for Brazil, I packed in one hour, and it took every bit of energy I could muster. Then, once we had checked in at the airport, security noticed that while Christi did have the required visa for her visit to Brazil, her actual passport had expired! Miraculously, although Christi couldn’t fly that day, the airline ended up letting her change her flight for free once she got her passport renewed, because they had erroneously allowed her to check in with an expired passport. I soon realized that this had all been orchestrated by a higher intelligence, because I had to walk this particular passage of my journey alone.

Now I am finally coming to the core of this story, the part that changed my life and brought me deep healing. I arrived on a Friday morning, and was immediately ushered in front of Joao de Deus that very afternoon to receive the spiritual care I needed from the healing entities that work through him.

JOG and Francois SmallThis photo was taken the previous year, the day after I met Oprah Winfrey.

The next few days were extremely intense, self-confrontational, dark and scary. Christi joined me in Brazil for the second week of the three-week-long trip. That Wednesday morning, as prescribed the previous Friday, I received a spiritual surgery from John of God. Though Joao doesn’t touch people physically during surgery, the entities of Light who work with him are working on patients energetically. They apply a spiritual anesthesia, which causes you to become comatose for about 24 hours while they work on you.

Later on the same day that I received this spiritual surgery, I was lying in bed at my hotel when I was woken up by a big orb of golden light. It was my guide Oro. He told me to “Sit up,” so I sat up. Then he said, “Put your left hand on your heart,” so I did. Finally he said, “Say ‘I Love You.’” I thought to myself, “How cheesy!” but I followed his instructions anyway. Finally, Oro said, “Say it 54 times.” “Fifty-four times!” I thought. “That’s quite a specific number! Am I making this up?” So I proceeded as instructed, but found myself struggling to keep an accurate count. After all, he didn’t tell me to say it “about a dozen times,” or any other vague number. It was fifty friggin’ four! For the next three days, I tried to find ways to be precise,but just couldn’t find a reliable system and was getting frustrated.

Then on the third day, Christi came back from The Casa with a gift for me. She had received guidance to get me a rosary, and she put it around my neck. It wasn’t a special-looking rosary, but I could feel its power and was overtaken by a strong emotional response when I put it on. Still, I struggled to keep count for my guide’s specific prescription. But two days later, as I was sitting in bed with my left hand on my heart, telling it “I Love You,” I finally asked out loud, “How do I keep track?” It was then that the golden orb entered the room once again and said in a neutral voice, “Count the beads on your rosary.” I took the rosary off my neck and started counting… one… two… ten… forty… fifty-one… fifty-two… fifty-four! There were fifty-four beads exactly! In that moment, I felt like the Heavens had opened up, and I was showered with an incredible surge of love and gratitude. At a time when I had doubted God’s ability (or willingness) to bring me healing and transformation, the realization that a higher intelligence cared enough for me to give me this tangible and potent process blew my mind and heart wide open. I saw the Light of Truth, the Light that myself and everyone else came from, the Light of my True Nature. Tears flowed down my cheeks as I watched my heart space fill with rainbow streams of light.

Rosary John of God Small

This is a photo of my actual rosary.

I did this self-love rosary process at the beginning of each day as part of my meditation, and I felt stronger every time. My mind, my emotions, and my physical body gained more and more stability as the days progressed. Every time I felt shaky in any way, or when fear tried to seep into my mind, I would take my left hand and apply it to my heart. I did this in movie theatres, music shows, while driving, before teaching at the University … By the time a year had passed, I had told my heart that I loved it over 20,000 times. I had chosen Love over Fear, Life over Death, and I had driven deep into my subconscious the knowledge that I am loved by my own Self, and by God. I am now stronger and clearer than ever as a result of this practice.

With every self-love mantra I said, my life adjusted to reflect my new relationship to myself. Yes, my health got better – two additional Lyme disease blood tests upon my return from Brazil showed no trace of Lyme – but so did my financial abundance, which has increased dramatically. My relationships deepened, and my service in the world expanded, all as a result of increasing my self-love. Having shared this story and the process I was given with a few close friends, I saw how helpful it was for them too, and now they have easily embraced the self-love rosary process as a practice in their own lives. They encouraged me to share it with you too.

So here is my invitation for you today. If you feel that things are not quite where you know they should be, on whatever level, find a rosary or a mala, put your left hand on your heart, and say to it: “I Love You.” Repeat this fifty-four times or even 108 times if you’re using a mala! But don’t do it for the external results, although those will certainly come. Do it for yourself, because you know it is the right prescription for your life. Set yourself straight again. Fill your own Heart with the Love you deserve. If you find yourself doubting that you can actually love yourself, let whatever Higher Power you believe in do the loving and simply intend to allow it in.

May all the choices you make this year 2015 reflect the Love that you Are.


Here is how emotions can help you succeed!

Written by Francois.

Do you ever get stuck in certain emotions? Perhaps this happens more often than you’d like? Many of my first-time clients have been struggling with just that, and in a sincere and courageous attempt to address their emotions more consciously, they have gone on a quest to embrace their emotions instead of fighting them. Some of them have been exploring their emotions for decades! They express their emotions through art, dance, in the way they communicate, and so on. Yet when they come to me, they often express frustration or confusion due to the fact that they still feel stuck in emotions such as sadness, doubt, anger, resentment, jealousy, grief, shame, and guilt, despite all their efforts. They want to know why it is that the peace they have been seeking hasn’t yet arrived.

Questioning Woman

In this newsletter, I will attempt to communicate what I’ve learned about the role emotions play in our spiritual evolution. In my years as a coach and facilitator of conscious growth, many of my clients have asked me: “What about the role of our emotions? What about feelings? What about simply being human?” My views on this matter have been formed by my experiences facilitating both transformation and healing, which are really just different aspects of the same process.

I first started giving healing sessions as a student at an international business school over 22 years ago. I had spontaneously discovered that my intentions could turn me into a sort of lightning rod, bringing through healing energy with the power to facilitate instant physical, emotional or spiritual recovery in those who chose to receive it. Ever since, I have used this energy and clarity to help people grow past their limitations and into the power of their true selves, so they can manifest the success they want and that is their birthright.

What does this have to do with emotions? What I’ve learned from giving thousands of healing and coaching sessions is that whenever I get involved emotionally with my clients’ “pain story,” the healing doesn’t work. Even if it seems to at first, the effects of the healing won’t last. I’ve learned that in order to be a fit vessel for the “higher work” of supporting others in their healing and growth, I needed to be more neutral in my heart. Neutral means that I am not in any sort of reaction, and this allows me to be fully present with what is, so that I can know what is needed in the moment and be in the process of Creation.

In the Spirit Coach Workbook, it says that, “The word reaction spelled differently is the word creation. As human beings, we are either in the process of Creation or Reaction.”

Creativity transform reality

I’ve realized that true compassion resides more in the territory of neutrality than in my little self’s reactionary concept of what love is. When this dawned on me, I started questioning the role of our emotions in our lives. Did trying to be more neutral and live spiritually mean that emotions were now “bad,” and I should strive not to have them? I felt confused for a while, but over time I observed that in order to fill up with a higher, more potent level of God/Universe/Source, I needed to “empty” myself first, and that when I did, I felt better, clearer, more aligned, and more joyful, free and true. It was nothing short of liberating.

In this space I didn’t experience emotion as we usually define it, but rather a very subtle and refined sense of joy. If I had to label it I’d call it enthusiasm, not in the modern sense but rather “c.1600, from Middle French enthousiasme (16c.) and directly from Late Latin enthusiasmus, from Greek enthousiasmos "divine inspiration, enthusiasm (produced by certain kinds of music, etc.)," from enthousiazein "be inspired or possessed by a god, […]" from entheos "divinely inspired, possessed by a god," from en "in" (see en- (2)) + theos "god" (see theo-).” – Online Etymology Dictionary. In other words, in this space I experienced a remarkable lightness and clarity that allowed me to become a better channel for the light of God.

In this expanded state, I feel as if I am vibrating in synch with a divine tuning fork, and I know my path instead of feeling the need to figure it out. When I first touched this space, I knew what was needed and was able to act upon this higher guidance outside the limitations of my rational mind. This allowed me to step into my true service, and it has proved very valuable to my clients and loved ones. Having witnessed this, I’ve committed to being in that state not only in my work, but also in the rest of my life. When I made this commitment, my life became my service, and this brought me much more abundance and ease. Back to the original question: “What about emotions? What about feelings? What about being simply human?”

Without asking you to believe me or agree with me, I invite you to consider this thought: prior to our identity as humans, who we are is Spirit. We are Spirit having a human experience; our human bodies are simply vehicles through which we experience life on Earth, but they are not who we are. These vehicles are miraculous, but they are laden with programs, just like a car’s computer. We are not our bodies, nor our thoughts, nor are we our emotions. Why is it important to realize this? Because it helps to put emotions into their proper context, and move from being “at effect” in our lives to being “at choice.” In other words, it helps us make the shift from being in reaction to being in co-creation. This three dimensional reality is extremely compelling and year after year, from the moment we are born, we forget who we truly are and where we came from.


From a young age, we start to forget that who we are is Spirit having an experience “in the world,” and begin to believe that we are “of the world” – our minds, bodies and emotions. I believe that we start to experience suffering when we begin to identify with these ‘worldly’ aspects.

So what, then, are emotions really? Emotions are like the lights on our car’s dashboard that tell us our fuel or engine oil is running low.


They let us know that we have strayed from our clear and aligned state, and that we need something. Something within us needs our attention and intention so that we can course correct and regain our alignment with our Source. When a warning light goes off on your dashboard, do you “explore the light?” Do you spend time observing it and pondering why it isn’t a different color? No, you understand it as the signal it is to give your car what it needs, and you take the appropriate steps to address the issue (hopefully!) In the same way, when we find ourselves experiencing strong emotions, we must take the necessary steps to address the imbalances within us that are giving rise to them. That’s not to say this will always be easy to do quickly, but just having the intention to return to neutrality will facilitate the process of release and re-alignment.

“But what about all the positive emotions?” you might say. “What about excitement, love, hope? Aren’t these good emotions to have?” In response, I ask you to consider the possibility that it’s all the same. Like I said, emotions are neither good nor bad in and of themselves; they are merely signals that some part of you has left the sweet spot of divine neutrality. You may prefer the blue light on your dashboard to the yellow one, but your preferences are irrelevant to your car’s ability to function. In the same way, while your emotions may indicate where you need to pay attention, in and of themselves they are irrelevant to your path of living in alignment with Source.

Indeed, precisely because the so-called “positive” emotions can feel so good in our bodies, we must be aware of any tendency to become addicted to them and seek them out for their own sakes. This does not mean we do not enjoy experiencing them, but we must do so with awareness. Years ago, a friend of mine got so excited that he fell through a glass window, cutting himself badly and ending up in the ER. He got carried away and ungrounded by this “exhilarating emotion,” and forgot to be present and aware as a result. (Here is a short video on how to ground so you can be more present and aware. You'll need to scroll down to the video called: "Develop your Leadership Potential - Skill#1". I teach this technique to all my executive clients as well as my High Impact Communication Skills students at University of San Francisco:

Love is an emotion that many people feel an understandable attachment to, but it is important to ask ourselves how we define it. Because of the “worldly” programs that I mentioned earlier, for most of us, even our subconscious definition of “unconditional love” is actually still conditional. What we’re talking about here is non-conditional love, which is that subtle joy which is all that remains in a state of neutrality. The same goes for the emotion we call hope. This emotion only arises after we have already left our alignment with Source, in response to the mind’s perception of lack or imperfection. When we experience that alignment, the idea of hope is replaced by a clear knowing that whatever is, is what should be. And, we also understand what our next step is, based on the intuitive guidance of "right action" which can only be known by our Spirit and not by our limited rational mind.

Peach rose

So, are emotions bad after all? Of course not! Emotions are signals, and can serve as helpful guide posts on our path. I invite you to try this right now: Start by grounding yourself. (Unless you already have a grounding practice, use the visualization from my video above: And remember to scroll down to the video named: "Develop your Leadership Potential – Skill#1") Then imagine that way up above your head, somewhere past the moon in the Universe, there is a beautiful bright golden light. This is the light of Source. Somehow, find a way to get a sense of this energy or presence and connect with it. How does that feel? If this feels good to you, then the next time emotions come up, take a moment to ground and connect. It is when we are present (grounded), neutral (not in any form of reaction), and aligned with intention that we can find what Buddhists call “Right Action.” This means the choice that is for the highest and best good not only of ourselves, but of all beings in the Universe, beyond what the little self may think it wants. While the small self may find this idea constricting, it is the key to true freedom.

FUN FACT: In closing, my friend Natalie shared with me this interesting fact. In Nepali, which is the closest modern language to Sanskrit, the separation between emotions (and all other forms) and identity is built into the language, because it was created and spoken by people with a high level of spiritual understanding.  For example, instead of saying "I'm angry," they say "the anger is over here with me" - this de-personalizes emotions and inserts an awareness of impermanence and emptiness into the very structure of the language.  Similarly, one never speaks of nouns in the possessive.  Instead of saying 'my bedroom,' you say 'the room I sleep in,' and instead of saying 'my car,' you might say 'the car I drive.'  Interesting, eh?

Please keep in touch, I’d love to hear about your experiences with these practices!


Spirit CPR™: The Three Steps to Becoming a Magnet for your True Love

Written by Francois.

If you are single, spiritual, and interested... no... committed to finding your True Love, then there is a clear path that might be just what the doctor ordered: Spirit CPR™! Yes, your Spirit could be in serious need of Spirit CPR™ especially if it has been a while since your True Love heart has beat. 

What is Spirit CPR™? It is a three step formula that can take you from being single and stuck, to feeling connected, alive, and super mega attractive. Simply put: A True Love Magnet!

What are the three steps?

C stands for Clearing 

Clearing all blockages to you being your True beautiful Self and a magnet for your True Love.

P stands for Proactivating

Proactivating your True Self, your gifts, your strengths, your Light.

R stands for Receiving

So you can be in a receptive mode and actually be in the state that will allow for your True Love to show up at your door step!

If this formula appeals and resonnates with you, you can do one of two things:

  • Work one-on-one with a True Love Magnet™ coach (the minimum commitment is three months).
  • Sign up for one of our workshops or retreats.

If you are interested in finding out more about this process, please leave us your email at the bottom of this page:


What do you do with ANGER?

Written by Francois.

In recent weeks, a surprising number of my coaching clients have brought the same theme to their sessions: “I’m PISSED OFF!” They say things like: “Why am I so bloody angry lately?” and “I get so mad, I say and do things that I later regret. What shall I do?” or “I get so mad at myself for being at the mercy of my anger. I feel I can’t trust myself anymore. What do I do?”

Cmon inner peace I dont have all day

As anyone who has had this kind of experience will know, anger is incredibly powerful. If it is consciously managed and directed, the energy it generates can benefit life. Left unchecked however, anger can kill.

I know this first hand because, believe it or not, I had terrible anger issues when I was younger!

My mother will tell you that I was a very happy baby, almost boringly so. Years later however, it was a different story: I developed a deep dissatisfaction with some dynamics in my life and contracted a serious case of anger-itis. I’d get angry to the point of becoming physically explosive, and would take it out on my poor brother, my classmates, my parents, my monkey doll, …

To say the least, my anger became more problematic the older I got. At dinner, without warning I would suddenly explode: I would flip the table over and send our meal flying, leaving a big mess to clean up and my family in shock. It was sad, because this brash display of power was simply the result of my total inability to handle my intensifying emotions. I just didn’t have the tools or the wisdom to process what I felt in a constructive way. Things changed however one day, when my father was exceptionally inspired in his response to one of my outbursts. Rather than opposing the intense energies that were coming through me, he suggested a healthier way in which I might channel my volatile emotions. He said: “Next time you feel this anger coming on, feel free to get up and hit the door of your room. But for heaven’s sake, leave our dinner table alone!” I accepted this suggestion, and the next time it happened, I got up, glided along the bench, made my way around the table, walked to the door, and punched it so hard it cracked. Over the next few months, the crack spread all the way from the very top to the bottom of the door. Eventually, by the time I arrived at the door, my anger would subside enough that I didn’t even need to punch it, and I would just stand there until the feeling passed. Finally, the day came when I didn’t even need to get up anymore, because the anger knew that an outlet was available and it wouldn’t be opposed or blocked. My dad’s creative solution offered a less harmful pathway for my intense emotions to find expression. This experience helped me to gain more awareness and control over my powerful emotions, and increased my self-esteem and ability to trust myself.

A man who conquers himself

One thing is for sure: stifling our emotions doesn’t work. If emotional energy has nowhere to go, it will create dysfunction at every level from emotional to physical, even resulting in dis-ease.

For example, one of my dear clients gets huge boils on her body, for which she takes a mild antibiotic. She had never linked her emotions to this phenomenon, but had attributed it to a hormonal imbalance. Now though, she has discovered that repressed anger is the root cause of this physical affliction, and is learning tools to channel that energy in ways that actually help her grow and awaken to her innate truth and power.

Last week, when a client came to my office with a large amount of anger toward a certain person, I held up a pillow, looked at her invitingly, and nodded. After punching the pillow for about a minute, she felt somewhat better and was at least “coachable.” We were then able to look at what was really going on, and she discovered that her anger had nothing to do with this other person, and everything to do with herself. She was able to see that the true source of her emotions was her feelings towards herself, and together we found a practical tool that worked for her. When I saw her again this week, she told me that her anger toward the other person had disappeared immediately after our last session.

The tools I teach can’t be put into practice just by reading about them; they must be experienced. But there is one incredibly powerful tool that I will share with you here. It’s simple: the next time you experience anger arising in you, ask yourself, “What do I need?” Then see how you can meet your needs. Maybe there is a request you can make of someone, or maybe you can establish a boundary with someone and say “no”, breaking a pattern of chronic over-giving that drains your energy. Maybe you need fresh air or physical exercise or some other form of self-care such as wrapping you in your favorite fuzzy blanky!

Kitten in blue fuzzy

If you find you don’t know what the need behind your anger is, I encourage you to take time for self-inquiry to excavate your inner terrain.

One thing I’d also like to say here is that your most powerful tool for transformation is your awareness. When you take the time to cultivate awareness of what your needs are, it always pays off.

It was only recently that I realized that the needs underneath my youthful anger had to do with my desire for truth, honest relationships, freedom and love. Before that, I had bought into the idea that I was simply “a rebel.” Now that I know my anger came from legitimate, universal needs, I no longer judge myself for having had these emotions. Instead, I focus my attention on making sure that I get what I need, taking responsibility for my well-being so that I no longer need to blame anyone or anything for my suffering. This is a step on the path from victimhood to empowerment, and this newfound freedom and spiritual power wouldn’t have been possible without the intentional and focused use of my awareness.

Now it’s your turn!

The next time you start getting angry, ask yourself: “What do I need?”

Let me know if you have any questions and keep me posted on your progress!

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