World Peace through relationships that flourish!

Relationships don’t have to be hard!

I tend to feel sad when I see other people struggling with their relationships, not because they are not meant to be together or don’t love each other, but simply because they lack a certain “Relationship Education.”

I guess you could say it reminds me of my own experiences of suffering in past relationships. One such relationship was in 1992, where my girlfriend at the time and I were sitting at the dinner table having a wonderful time laughing. Then, the next thing I knew, I was leaning out the window screaming after her: “And don’t forget your pizza!!!” as I was throwing the rest of her pizza at her.

Okay…What just happened?!

It’s obvious that with the type of “pizza slinging” consciousness I possessed at that time, I would have been a poor World Peace Ambassador!

One common attribute I have observed in all of my clients is their desire to make a difference in the world. And most of them look at the world as one big lump of chaos and war—as something outside of themselves, over which they have no power and feel hopelessly overwhelmed about.

Here’s the deal. The world is an exact reflection of our collective consciousness. Gandhi said: “Our contribution to the progress of the world must consist of setting our own house in order.”

Start with what you CAN change—Your “Own House.”

1. Look at your relationship with yourself

• Is it gentle, loving, caring, and peaceful?
Or is it harsh, overly critical, demanding, and disconnected?

• If you could make a difference in the world by changing one thing about your relationship with yourself, what would it be?

Take a moment to contemplate and answer these questions…

Commit to changing what you can!

2. Look at your relationship with your lover (or any other close relationship)

• Is it an expression of the Peace you want to see in the world?

• If not, stand up and be your own hero, do something to set your own house in order.

If you are frustrated because you keep getting into arguments, and you feel ill equipped to handle conversations that are sensitive, but would love to be able to share deeply what is not working for you in a relationship while strengthening intimacy rather then separation, educate yourself in Non Violent Communication by getting the book, Non Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. And if possible, join a practice group in your area. There are chapters all over the world, and for those who live here in Marin, there’s one in Corte Madera called the Sunrise Center (

Better yet, JOIN US in my upcoming weekend workshop: Conscious Relationships: A Path Toward World Peace, Saturday, March 28th and 29th . Get inspired, learn new skills, develop effective tools, and most of all, find the empowerment necessary in your relationships to experience deep lasting Peace and Love.

If you’d like to get a glimpse of what we’ll be doing in the weekend workshop, I will be giving a FREE introductory evening at the Sunrise Center in Corte Madera on Wednesday, March 18th at 7pm ( for directions). Please join me and meet like-minded people. Your presence and participation is warmly welcomed and heartily encouraged. Come JOIN US!

Now more than ever, we need to set our own houses in order and attend to our relationships. Make the commitment to equip yourself with the knowledge,the tools, and the consciousness to successfully build peaceful and loving relationships. The fear of an uncertain economic future is utterly powerless in the face of the type of safety and love that can permeate all of our relationships in this very present moment.

Attend to your love garden.
Sow in the right places.
Water the plants that matter most.
Cherish your loved ones… including your Self.

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At the Pachamama Alliance Luncheon last Thursday, I met an incredible woman by the name of Tiffany Bass Bukow. There was something inspiring and grounding about her. A confidence, freshness and a sense that she was here to help people. We talked about many things such as family and her imminent move to Brazil with her husband and child.

I was pleased to receive an email from her the next day acknowledging our connection. She had been so inspired that she had blogged about me. I went through her blog and from there to her website, where I realized who she was and what she was up to. She is Ms. Money from Her gift to the world is helping people on the path to financial freedom, and she’s especially passionate and a true expert specifically about women’s financial success.

Her website is a well of information and tools geared toward financial empowerment.

By the way, Hilary Clinton cut the ribbon at the official launching ceremony of her website, which has since drawn over 2 million visitors!

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Good luck on your path to financial freedom and thank you Ms.Money for your help!



We call chaos, experiences or events that we can't track, understand or make sense of. Our response to chaos is commonly that of "reaction" – a non consciously chosen action. We experience ourselves at effect of the world when we “react” to our environment. Deep held beliefs about who we are and the nature of our relationship to the All, keep us at effect of circumstances. The truth is that we have come here to experience free-will (not reactionary will) and be conscious co-creators in these very special times in the history of our world.

Could what we call "chaos" really just be the perspective of our limited selves?

Could chaos actually be the work of the Great Opulent Design that surpasses the tracking capacities of our egoic minds?

What we witness in nature is that chaotic experiences are closely followed with a cycle of reorganization, which results in a new and more adapted operating system or existence.

The life cycle of the butterfly is the archexample of this. It starts as a caterpillar, heavy and pretty much confined to the area where it hatched. It looks like a “finished product”, yet something unbelievable is about to happen. At some point after eating as much as it could, and growing fat, it hangs itself, lets go of its old self, turns into a gooey soup of imaginal cells, to become what it was born to be: the beautiful winged creature we call butterfly.

I have often wondered what the experience of the caterpillar might be as it slowly disintegrates under the action of self-created enzymes. How aware is it? Does it freak out? Does it know what it's up to? And if yes, does it still freak out?

When we look back at times of chaos in our lives with honesty, we can usually see the good that came out of them. Sometimes we experienced an inner shift that changed everything about the way we perceived our reality, and brought forth behavioral changes that resulted in the manifestation of different creations. Other times, we have just found ourselves in new circumstances that are better suited to facilitate our living our purpose.

If we’re even honester, looking back at the times right before chaos showed up, we’ll see that somewhere, we KNEW that time for change had struck, but didn’t think we had it in us to initiate the required changes. After all, why step into the unknown when we just arrived at a point in our lives where we start feeling shaky. Shouldn’t we be looking for stability instead? It’s like being at the end of the road we’re on, and standing on the edge of a cliff. And we’re like: “No way I’m jumping!” And we wait… until LIFE gives us the push, and rather than diving gracefully out of our own conscious choice with a beautiful triple summersault, we fall down with flailing arms and legs, kicking and screaming like a three-year old on a sugar high at bedtime.

What if we could truly and deeply realize that just like the caterpillar, we are NOT the end product and will never be. Nothing is. We are constantly in a process of change following the cycles of: creation, conservation and destruction. The Hindus have attributed a God to each aspect of the cycle. Brahma the Creator, Vishnu the Conserver, and Shiva the Destroyer.

When Shiva comes knocking on our door, can we welcome the divine plan behind the scary appearance of destruction? Then rather than chaos, we would have the opportunity to see what it’s like to be having an imaginal experience. Imagine that!

Remember this when chaos becomes overwhelming to you:

You are butterflying yourself!

We are all constantly butterflying ourselves!!

Who wants to remain caterpillar all of our life, when our purpose is to fly?

The critical situation of our world, and its very real prospect of self-annihilation, is not unlike the chrysalisation process of the caterpillar. The old obsolete egoic structures will be shed, and we will ALL emerge on the other side as a butterflied people and planet! The question is not whether it will happen -it is happening - but whether we will transition with a triple summersault or kicking and screaming.

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